Posted by Donna Arp Weitzman • November 17, 2015
In my early 20’s Dr. Darling , my college professor, chastised me saying,” Donna, you’re just mentally lazy.” How that hurt my feelings! Surely I could fool him too. I’d gotten by most of my life without too much mental effort.
He also told me, “take care of your mind by using it.” As a co-ed, I thought he was quite the jerk.
So with a bit of resentment and a lot of chutzpah, I graduated and proceeded in life with gusto. Boldly stepping outside the box often, I occasionally suffered “not fitting the mold.”
Years of reaching for my “strength core” and often finding self-doubt, I struggled with “why am I not pleasing everyone;” never doubting others, just me.
Only within the last few years have I settled with myself; now thinking I AM a good person. I’m as good as anyone else and everyone else. This has afforded me inner peace; the best gift ever received.
Decades have passed and many places have been home since Dr. Darling’s declaration. He would now be pleased that I’ve chosen to stretch my mind and accept my own gift, natural curiosity. I can’t get enough information now that I accepted my “adulthood” status. My head spins with all the things I want to know. Laziness and lethargy have left me. A limited time lurks in my mind.
It’s taken years to determine what I really value, and “passing it on” seems filled with hubris. But here’s what I hope for others and for me:
These are some of the bits of wisdom that life has revealed to me. I only wish I’d discovered them earlier, but my psyche wasn’t ready. How did Dr. Darling know I was for years just mentally lazy!