Posted by Andrew • February 13, 2018
You’ve been through a lot this year–love, breakups, relationship withdrawal. It’s not easy, especially this time of year when it seems that love is all around. Whether it’s all over social media, in every fancy restaurant, or recently released on Netflix, this day of romance is invading your world of peace and healing.
It’s your first Valentine’s Day alone, and this day could be a nightmare, but I’m here to tell you you’re not alone and it doesn’t have to be. There are ways you can turn this “holiday” around and treat yourself to some much needed self-love.
Take the evening to treat yourself to a lovely dinner, whether it’s takeout or “go-out.” If you would rather stay home but still want the luxury, order something for delivery or plan to cook yourself a homemade meal that you wouldn’t normally prepare. If you’re up for going out, I suggest going early so you miss the later influx of lovers.
Similar to a dinner date with yourself, take yourself to see a nice flick or have a pampering movie night to yourself at home. Get some candles, wine, and throw on your favorite movie. You don’t even have to leave the house; there are plenty of selections on mediums such as Amazon Prime, Hulu, Netflix, or HBO GO. I suggest staying away from romances, if you feel too sensitive. Instead, try a comedy or suspense in these vulnerable times.
This is one of the hardest things to do in a time of longing and vulnerability, while so many others seem to be in love (and rubbing it in). The point is, you broke up with your former lovers for a reason, and you’re better off alone than settling with someone you weren’t meant to be with. It can be easy to pick up the phone and call or text a former romantic partner. Instead, have a backup plan: call a friend who acts as a support for you. Avoid bad thoughts, try to stay busy, and keep thinking about future possibilities.
Personally, I don’t know anything that makes me feel more confident or accomplished than when I put in the hard work and sweat out my emotions, toxins, and stress. Not only does a good workout take your mind off things and keep you busy, but it’s an accomplishment. The confidence that comes with a nice yoga class or a work out session is priceless. This day is about you. No one else.
If you’re feeling stir crazy and nothing sounds appealing or distracting enough, take that restless energy and put it toward something good. There are others out there who feel alone and need help. I recommend taking the evening of Valentine’s Day to volunteer and do something kind for another. It could be a stranger, a homebound friend, or elderly person in your life. Take it the extra step and be their Valentine; bring a box of chocolates and flowers with you.