Posted by Andrew • July 14, 2017
There’s no doubt that dating is different today than it was ten, twenty, and fifty years ago, but the mix of generations from spry millennial to seasoned baby boomer all coexist in this modern, connected world. Dating is certainly different among each generation today, but commonalities still exist in this universal pursuit of love, relationships, and the courtships they entail.
One of the biggest differences between generations is the kind of technology they group up with. Millennials have always had the internet and cell phones, whereas computers were just getting started in the boomer generation. What does that mean for dating? With Millennials, it means they tend to be in constant communication via texting, chat apps, and social media. They’re used to being able to reach their significant other almost instantly at any time of the day or night. Constant communication fosters a different relationship dynamic than in previous generations. There’s a certain dependency and expectation of perpetual communication. This brings up another big difference, SOCIAL MEDIA!
Social media has only been around for about 10-12 years but it is now a huge staple of our society. What this means for dating is that millennials have much more transparency in their dating prospects. They can easily look up someone’s past jobs, education, relationships, cities they’ve lived, etc, unlike any generation before. Boomers have access to social media as well, but their post history is generally a lot shorter, more professional, and is of course missing content from before social media and internet proliferation. One of the downsides to social media is that much of what you see online is staged or made to look it’s absolute best, when the reality may be much less glamorous. What this means is that real, honest moments may be harder to come by, because everyone’s trying to hard to look their best online.
While millennials have technology and social media on their side, Boomers on the other hand have more experience and intimate knowledge in dating and relationships. Many of them have been married, are divorced, and have been through a number of serious relationships in their time. Because of these experiences, Boomers tend not to waste time and cut right to the chase, they don’t’ sit around wondering “are they into me”, or “Is it going to work out”, they look for companions with common interests and don’t waste time with people who are aren’t a good match.
Boomers often worry about someone’s ability to look after themselves; financial stability is important to this generation. Millennials on the other hand are used to instability, both financially and emotionally, which sometimes translates into uncertainty within their relationships. So even though their methods and definitions of dating are widely different, both generations are still both looking for similar things: love, companionship, emotional fulfilment.